As cliché as this may sound, your wedding vows have to come from the heart. It’s true. After all, it’s the most important day of your life. As soon as he pops the question to marry him and your teary-eyed self says the most important “yes,” your journey to writing these immortal vows begins. It’s not something you compose overnight. Every now and then, sit in one quite corner of the house and write down your answers to these questions:
- When you were younger, did you picture yourself getting married? How did you envision it?
- When did you know for sure that you have found the one person you want to marry?
- What was going through your mind when he proposed?
- What are the things you love most about the person you are going to marry?
- How much has this person touched/changed your life?
- How do you see your future together?
- Are there famous quotes you’d like to read to your partner on your wedding day?
Do not be too concerned yet on the length of your answers. Just keep writing down your thoughts on these questions.
A week or two before the wedding day, begin combining and editing your answers above until it becomes one beautiful masterpiece. Don’t make it too long though, as it will bore everyone, including your spouse. Practice reading it, sometimes in front of the mirror, so you’ll learn to make eye contact with your partner. I don’t recommend you memorize it because with the overwhelming emotions, you might end up forgetting or missing important lines. Just write it on a piece of paper and keep it safe in your pouch/pocket.
If the Church does not allow you to read your own wedding vows, don’t be discouraged. You could just have a special part in your reception program where you could read your vows to each other. After the wedding, I suggest you ask a calligrapher to write it on a special paper (separate for the bride and for the groom). Have them framed and then hang them in your new home. It will be a reminder everyday of your love for each other.